Alexander did not know it, but Mikaya had to go through an immense amount of effort to get a one on one audience with him like this.
Even Pasha Farzah's words were not enough to let her escape her to-be husband's clutches initially. Instead, the old lord had to personally meet with Pasha Ozman to let this happen.
And even then, the smitten, half crazy Shahel had wanted to accompany his to be wife into Alexander's room… just to make sure nothing untoward happened.
This was of course something utterly unthinkable.
In Adhanian culture, there was indeed a practice of an older, experienced woman helping a virgin couple get through their first night, showing them some of the dos and don'ts.
It was quite outdated by now, but still, it occurred from time to time under special circumstances, for instance if the bride or groom were too young but were still married hastily due to political reasons.